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09 May 2007 @ 09:00 am
It's been a long time since I posted anything. It's odd that I choose this as a return.

Thoughts on Abstinence and Promiscuity

In light of the latest book in the Atheist genre, “God is Not Great,” I thought it would be good to address one of the main thrusts of the book, which is sexual activity. The author claims that one of the primary motives of religion is the prosecution of sexual activity so as to spawn repression rather than fulfillment. Naturally, the author presses many examples into our hands, noting that many world religions have sought to use faith as a tool to outlaw everything sexual from regular curiosity to deviance. He argues, in fact, that deviance in itself is deviance only from an accepted moral code based on religious values. What the author seems to miss in all of his ranting is the fact that sex is encouraged, but in a way that does not work well with the “do what you want when you feel like it” mentality.

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05 October 2006 @ 09:33 pm

Current Mood: angryangry
02 September 2006 @ 12:02 pm
i got them finally: http://community.livejournal.com/atheism/977037.html

what's the matter? cat gots there tonges? lol
24 July 2006 @ 04:46 pm
hay guys. haven't posted in awhile how r u all doing.

anywayz, i just came across this and i thought i would share. its really powerful becuz it shows that no matter what the results, god will always answer are prayers.

god bless
21 July 2006 @ 12:14 am
Hi there. I don't really have much to say right now. My husband and I are both Lutherans and we've been married for almost 5 years. I hope I can help out in the community with friendly advice or a friendly ear.

01 May 2006 @ 04:37 pm
Ok, so I managed to make my wife angry.

I try to be a good husband, I really do.

Here was my thought, with some background tossed in like a sprinkling of paprika.

We're nearing our 10th wedding anniversary. September. Naturally, I'm too poor and cheap to be able to upgrade her wonderful engagement ring, so I had a thought. Actually, the thought erupted while I was looking at an ad for a jewelry store (www.affinitystyle.com) in the local community rag. I recall really digging their rings, specifically those that show up on the top of the front page of the web site.

So, back to the lone thought. What if - and it was a really tentative "what if" - instead of upgrading her ring, we upgraded mine to a hip stainless steel setting with a small princess-cut (takes a REAL man to say that) sapphire to match hers so that we look even more wonder-twin-ish?

My current ring is great. No, really. I wear it every day and only take it off to show people the inscription ("To my fairy tale prince...") from my bride. It's a 10k band. That's it.

So I bring up this idea and I am hit with "so how long have you harbored this dislike for your wedding band, the one tangible symbol of our marriage?"

She was serious. She thought that I completely hated my wedding band and this was a plot to do away with it.

See, here's where Guy-Logic(tm) differs from Chick-Logic(tm). Guys tend to move in this blissfully-happy Disney-like world where things are simple and those who say what they say mean what they say, of course, unless they are lying, at which point they appear like this big Disney-like villain. Women seem to move in a world where what someone says is far less important than what they were wearing, what they were doing, etc. It's really in the details, I guess, and guys generally don't need them. For us, things are straightforward.

So when I said what I said to my wife, which included a "why dont we go to the store together and you can pick out what you would like to give me" so that she would feel more like she had selection in the gift and also clearly stating that this was just an idea, not an "I'm leaving home if you don't buy me this ring" statement, I meant what I said.

She heard, "I hate you and your taste in everything."

See, women. DOn't get 'em a lot of the time, and I have been in training for two decades. For example, let me demonstrate a recent phone call between me and a buddy who wanted to know if we could go to dinner with him and his wife.

Me: Uh-huh.

Him: So, can you guys go to Fong's House of Frog Parts tonight? You know, they have that "all you can eat on a gibbet" special...

Me: I'd love to, but we've got soccer practice tonight and probably cant go after the game.

Him: You know, my Mom has cancer.

Me: Man, that's rough. She doing okay?

Him: Yeah, she'll probably do chemo soon.

Me: Wow. That's rough. You holding up ok?

Him: Yeah. Ok, gotta run. Wife's home and we gotta figure out where to go to dinner.

Me: Ok. Later.

So, I get off the phone and the wife says, "WHo was that?" So I tell her. "What did he want?" So I tell her he invited us to dinner and that his Mom has cancer. Pretty much, I've delivered all the info I have access to. She wants to know at what restaurant, if his wife was going, what she was wearing, how work was going for him, if their kids were going to summer camp, how his wife's horticulture class was going, if the mother was taking herbal remedies and if he thought her hair might fall out because we could definitely sponsor something from Locks of Love and when we could visit her in the hospital and what hospital she was at and if that hospital had a good cafeteria and...

You get the point.

Guys: Get the info. Move on. Case closed.

Women: Get the info. Get more info. Get the important info. Get the middling info. Get the useless and tiresome info. Then ask some more questions. Case slightly ajar.

So, what do the women think I should have done?
04 April 2006 @ 05:34 pm
i hope this is ok here:

yesterday an lj friend of mine made a post about childhood obesity, and several of her friends (including me) got into a discussion on healthy eating habits, the struggle to afford healthy foods on a low or fixed income, the need for exercise & activity.

as i can see some room for improvement in this area in my home, i thought i'd ask anyone who is interested, to contribute some tips to living healthy -- food choices, recipes, fun activities, kid-friendly healthy snacks, anything like that. or anything you can think of that i didn't describe!

i know this is not totally related to christianity, but i prefer to get family-related advice from women who have a relationship with christ.

i'm also cross-posting this a couple places.
28 March 2006 @ 12:08 am
Hello all. I was wondering if or how many of you all have done Tommy Nelson's Song of Solomon Bible study and what you thought or heard about it. We are getting married in June, and we went through it last summer. It really was great for a sort of pre-marital counseling, but I plan to go through it again hopefully sometime in the first year of our marriage. If you have done this study, did you find that it helped you both? Just wondering what you all thought about it.
08 March 2006 @ 03:24 pm
Goodness, it's been a while since we've been talking here and I've noticed we've gotten a bunch of new members in the past few months.

So here is a question I have for discussion: how you and your spouse make decisions? minor and major ones...

Ok: Discuss :)
28 February 2006 @ 05:51 pm
Just would like to bring up in prayer request & praise. .

My husband's job (American Sign Language Instructor to high school students) is closing the ASL program. . '

So he has to find a new job else where by this fall. .

He now has 3 job interviews to go to. . It's great. . All of them will be around Deaf people or at least nearby other Deaf people. (My husband and I are Deaf and also with our Deaf daughter)

Just asking for prayers for God's will which one is best one and also wisdom for the move during the summer as we find a place closer to his job. Then maybe by spring semester next year I'll be finally ready to go back to school.

God is good & its all in His timing! :)